What’s the first thing you do when you wake up? If you’re anything like me the first thing you do is hop on your phone and go straight to a millennials only news source, Twitter. Every trending hashtag has been thoroughly checked for news events, celebrity gossip and has the word gone to turmoil? Yes. After this 30 minutes of endless scrolling, it’s time for a change of scenery. Now to mindlessly scroll through Instagram checking your peer’s posts, babies are being born, friends are getting married and designer handbags are being shown off left right and centre. Don’t forget to virtually congratulate Kate on her new job, oh and have Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson split up? Shocked. Forget about the fear of missing out on house parties and events our generation are dealing with something a lot deeper than that; it’s called ‘FOMOMG’ or Fear Of Missing Out On My Goals.
Pretty much my whole youth all I’ve been told is how lazy, entitled and privileged our generation is. With recent studies showing that perfectionism being most prominent in our generation also linking to a rise of anxiety, depression and OCD in millennials. With social media becoming an integral part of our daily lives according to research 88% of 18-29-year-olds are on social media, if not across multiple platforms. For me, this is the biggest trigger of ‘FOMOMG’. On the daily we see all these carefully curated snapchats and Instagram pictures showing only 10% of that person’s real life, we see all the success and happiness. Very rarely do we see the hardships they’ve been through or how their mental state of mind is. We are all so obsessed with showcasing this idea of a perfect life with trying to find and cover up all negative emotions, we measure our own success based on others and begin to doubt our own self-worth all from one over-polished Instagram picture. Due to this we often don’t take the time to acknowledge our smaller achievements that will ultimately lead us to where we want to be.
I can 100% admit that I’m guilty of this, I’m in my final year of university and am doing incredibly well if I say so, I’ve worked very hard to get where I am. So why do I feel like I’m running out of time to achieve all my goals? I’ve built a great blog by myself being genuine and authentic to myself, I am estimated to graduate with a 1:1 in June 2019. But yet, I’m haunted by university debt, the fear that these last 3 years will all be for nothing and that I will walk into my dream job interview to be told I’m just not good enough. Having strangers put you on this virtual pedestal because of how they see your life online can be exhausting at times, because let’s face it who really has the time to sit and explain to all 1308 of my Instagram followers how I’m feeling every second of every day? Just know you’re not alone in feeling like this.
Over the 20 years I’ve been on this planet I have learned to be grateful for every chapter in my life, the good the bad and the damn right ugly. I’ve learnt recently that no one will work harder for your dreams than you, no one will take care of yourself better than you. If I continue to sit here afraid of not achieving my goals, what positivity and strength am I leaving myself to work with in order to reach them? If you can take anything from this blog post please let it be to accept that life is non-linear and that no one’s life will always be perfect no matter how they filter it on social media.
You cannot base our life timeline on someone else’s, that’s just not how life works. It’s impossible to plan every detail of your life, even if this was would you show them the world every aspect of your life? I thought not, there is no good in comparing your life to another’s no matter the size of their following or how well they look in pictures. It’s important that we all need to stop living in fear of not achieving and start living with the motivation to succeed in life. No one else will do this for you, so what are you waiting for!